I guess if quitting your job, moving your family to a new country, and taking risks in hopes of a better future means you are in the midst of a mid-life crisis, then hello 40 and hello mid-life.
So why “coffee loves wine?” How in the world did mid-life lead me to this?
I will never claim to be perfect, to have all the answers, or that life hasn’t come with some bumps and bruises along the way. Sugar coating isn’t my thing. I would rather say it how it is, then censor myself simply to please others.
Becoming a parent later than what society would deem “normal childbearing years” (insert your doctor constantly saying “advanced maternal age”) left me with a lot of questions. In fact, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing when I learned we were having a baby. I relied heavily on friends, who had been there. Unfortunately, most of our friends had teenagers by then and when I inquired about diaper rash, potty training, etc. it was usually met with an explanation that it had been so long since those days, they simply didn’t remember. While I certainly didn’t take offense, we can all relate to our memories fading quickly through the fog of parenting, it did leave me having to figure a lot of it out on my own
The one thing I learned is that you will get more advice, unsolicited opinions, and comments on what you should or shouldn’t be doing. I am not quite sure what it is about parenting that leaves people thinking they can interject their opinion at every turn, but it happens.
I promised myself that while I would learn things as a parent like putting a diaper on backwards at nap time or that bribery & threats were the foundation of parenting, the only advice I would ever give when asked how I juggle life, parenting, career, etc. is to “start the day with coffee, end the day with wine.”
It just makes sense. If you are tired, coffee. If your nerves are frayed, wine. If it has been a long day at work, wine. If you spent the night up with a sick little one, coffee. Playing referee to toddlers, wine. It can literally fix everything (for non-drinkers, insert chocolate in place of wine).
Coffee and Wine. Everything in between simply has a way of working itself out. Give yourself a little grace, approach it with humor, and just let go. Every day is a new beginning. Some days we will screw up and will lose our patience. Some days we will be so stressed out from work that we unintentionally bring it home with us. Some days we will be so tired that we can’t even muster up the energy to read a bedtime story or have a chat with a friend. Guess what – it will all be okay. Don’t beat yourself up. We are all human.
The rest of the story behind the name will come later. It’s good. I promise.